Written while Drunk on Thoughts

28 Feb 2014


Elite Daily is famous for its lists of reason why or why not to do a certain things. Written for the Generation Y, which are apparently more confused than our parents' generation and need complete strangers to tell us what to do.

Am I a spontaneous person? I ABSOLUTELY HATE HAVING NO PLANS. I wasn't born spontaneous, I wasn't raised to be spontaneous. Growing up, my parents will sit all three of us down on sunday night and made us tell them about our timetable and any plans that we are making. We weren't allowed to have last minute plan. This could be due to the fact that we rely on our parents to drive us around so our plans intertwine with theirs heavily. Spontaneity will pose a huge problem to them.

Of course, this habit rubbed off on me and my sister. We always plan in advance. I have a habit of not accepting last minute invitation. Last minute invitation which is probably 3 days away. I just like to know weeks in advance. I have plans for everything, from daily plans to life plans.

Ahhh..... now this is where I am suppose to tell you there is a turning point. Of course, there is. And I forced myself to be spontaneous. A year on... apart from "Never seen a sunrise", I've done everything on the list. It is not without worries, imagine being somewhere where you shouldn't be and befriending a stranger. I have pretty good record so far in protecting myself. Remember what our parents told us when we were young? "Don't talk to strangers." But a lot of times, even with my safety instinct screams ALERT to me, I still chose to take the leap of faith. I know friends that call me crazy for that. But more than often, the result is SURPRISINGLY PLEASANT and not to mention, FULFILLING. There is a worse scenario but lets not go there.

10 Regrets That Spontaneous People Will Never Have

Never Seen A Sunrise
Spontaneous people will tell their children of the nights they spent in Rio with strangers and new friends, sitting on the beach until the sun came up. They’ve seen the sun rise and fall, the stars ascend and disappear into the glow of daylight. They are no stranger to the movements of the earth, the beauty in the moments. They have experienced parts of life that most people sleep through.

Never Gone Somewhere Without A Map
There’s a thrill in wandering that can’t be found with your nose stuck in a map. Following your intuitions and the beating of your own heart is an important experience to have with yourself. Spontaneous people will never look back at life and wish they had just appreciated where they were, in that moment. They will remember the small details and the streets they would have never walked had they followed a path.

Never Befriended A Stranger
Spontaneous people have friends all over the world. They make friends wherever they go, acquiring portals in all sections of the world. They are not afraid to reach out and touch someone’s life, and let them touch theirs. They are more educated and well-versed with the world and the people who inhabit it than those stuck in their own bubble of friends and family.

Never Fell In Love With Someone Completely Wrong
The pain of a broken heart is always worth the thrill of falling in love. Spontaneous people don’t let the fear of heartbreak deter them from letting someone into their lives. They thrive on moments of passion and true affection. They let love overcome their entire beings, yet know when to walk away from it. They don’t regret past breakups and fleeting hookups, because they do not put the weight of importance on them. They see love as simple and will find it in the most obscure people.

Never Broke Curfew For An Amazing Party
Being wild and reckless is not a crime (unless, of course, it is). Sometimes the best times are the ones that shouldn’t have been. A spontaneous person learns when to break the rules and when it’s worth it. Spontaneous people don’t let societal pressures hold them back, weighing their options only for a few moments, always choosing new experiences over six weeks without a phone.

Never Took Off Without A Plan
Fleeing to the unknown is a thrilling experience that can’t be found in travel guides and travel agents. Spontaneous people listen to their gut and escape to the unknown when it’s time for a new adventure. They’ve hopped on planes and trains, letting a greater force guide them. They will pick days to leave their hotel and find a new town or a new spot to call their own. They don’t stick to schedules or guidelines.

Never Been Somewhere You Shouldn’t
The thrill of spontaneity is no greater than when you find yourself in a previously restricted situation. Whether it’s the apartment of a man or woman you know is bad for you or the adult section of your local Blockbuster, sometimes life is about taking risks and not always following the rules. It’s those who defy their restrictions who learn the truth.

Never Moved To A New City
Spontaneous people understand that there’s nothing as thrilling as moving to a new city and starting anew. There’s something beautiful about getting to know a new place and slowly discovering it as your new home. Life is to be explored, and never leaving the town you were born in is just a waste of all there is around you.

Never Had A Romance In A Foreign Country
There’s nothing more exciting than a relationship that must come to an end. Crossing barriers and finding love in a person with whom you share little cultural similarities and interests is a kind of love that can’t be found in anything else. It’s a raw love, a relationship that’s simpler and truer than anything you will find until you’ve found the one. It’s a relationship based on teaching each other and learning.

Never Made Plans In A Bar
Those plans made in bars, over pints of beer and stale chips are the ones you can never replace. They are the spontaneous decisions you make to fly to Ibiza for three days and spend the rest of your money on a one-way ticket. They are the schemes you hatch and routes you choose for your trip cross country. They are the moments you are most free and uninhibited. They are your desires as you laugh with friends and let the stress of life fade into the frothy foam of your beer.

Now I never travel with an itinerary. Things will pop up. Sometimes its due to the fact that I am lazy but most of the time, I am just following the flow. I talk to strangers, they have a lot a lot to offer. My friend and I onced met a British man who speaks awesome Thai, he was just sitting next to us at the restaurant and we had one of the nicest conversation with a stranger ever. A simple hi from a fellow solo traveller made my trip completely unforgettable and at the same time I made new friends from different cultures and background, gaining inside knowledge and new language skills. A simple leap of faith restored my confidence and self-esteem. Being spontaneous taught me life lessons that no education can prepare me for.

Of course, there are risks in everything. The greater the risk, the greater the outcome. The key is to believe in your guts.

Be spontaneous. You will be surprise with the outcome.

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Regrets that spontaneous people don't have

Since writing this particular post, I've tried to restrain myself from being too spontaneous. Obviously it doesn't work. I don't know how it would be like if I managed to plan better, but I managed to see the sunrise while walking around in my favourite city early early in the morning. The entire sky is purple. I closed my eyes and take it all in. Its the best feeling ever, that is until I walked into the fence.

I am an advocate of picture taking to immortalise the moment. I now do it with my heart. Why? Because the best thing will be remembered, the rest is just to fill in the blanks between great moments.

20 Feb 2014

The ONEs

I count my blessings everyday for having met those people that I did. Among all those people, there is a lovely lady that shine so bright she almost blind me the first (and only) time we met. Yet she continue to make an impact in my life. She is THAT inspiring.

She recently wrote a piece on LOVE. Things and people that she loves. What really stand out was what she wrote at the very end of the long long article.

Here’s to:
The ones that pull at our heart strings. 
The first love. 
The one after the first that seemed like a good idea but was really just a rebound. 
The one you stayed with for too long. The one that got away. 
The one that cracked your chest open and made you think you’d never love again. 
The one that proved you wrong. 
The one that you knew was wrong, but you stayed anyway. 
The one that was maybe too young. 
The one that wasn’t ready. 
The one who wanted to slow down. 
The one that will always try to get you back. 
The one you ran away from. 
The one that will always make you wonder. 
The one that you maybe shouldn't of loved, but you did. You just did. 
The one that moved away. 
The one who thought they weren't good enough. 
The one who was drawn to your light and then dimmed it because they couldn't keep up. 
The one that you almost married. 
The one that you felt so drawn to even though they always seemed to let you down. 
The one that takes your breath away. Every. Single. Time.
And here’s to the one that will make you forget about the rest.

This paragraph made me cried so hard and also made me SMILE. Then it inspired me to immortalise her words in my blog and to add a few of my own.

The one that is too logical for his own good.
The one that doesn't think you are worth fighting for.
The one that SHINE so bright and instead of helping you to shine, you ended up in the shadow.
The one that came into your life just to help you grow.

And lastly....

The one who is still hung on to the past. *This is by far the scariest one, in my opinion*

Then I remember this:

And here’s to the one that will make you forget about the rest.

AND All is good again.

If you are interested in the rest of her article, head over to http://rugged-luxury.com/. I promise you that she will make you smile and laugh then cry then SMILE again.

14 Feb 2014

St Valentine


She is a Marshmallow.
Sweet, soft and melts in the mouth.
Trying to survive, trying to fit in and trying to strive.

She was burned and badly bitten.
So she forced herself to get harden.
Shutting everyone out, trying to protect herself.

Call it fate, call it chance.
This is how she met Coffee.
Dark, bitter yet so delicious and energetic.

She knows it is going to hurt.
She knows she will potentially get burnt.
If she ever goes too near.

She still took the risk.
And dive in with that hot steamy Coffee.
Knowing she would once again get burned.

One day, a conversation between them happened.
"I enjoyed my time with you but you are not my destiny.
SHE is always my destiny"

Burn! Badly burned.
She grew smaller with every burn.
But that is not going to stop her.

For she is Marshmallow, sweet, soft and best of all, flexible.

- Melavigne

9 Feb 2014

My Heroine

My Heroine

You came into my life not many moons ago,
somehow it seems like ages.
We bonded like how old friends did.
But I always wonder, will it last?

Not long after, you had to leave. 
There I was, thinking "This is it."
The end of our short 4-months friendship.
All thats left is great memories.

This is when I was wrong,
You supported me when my life went wrong.
It has been clear to me now.
You will always be my Heroine.

- Melavigne

6 Feb 2014

Chinese New Year 2014

I never enjoy Chinese New Year as an adult. This is because I have yet to accept the tradition of 20 Questions that follows some sort of flowchart depending which stage of life you currently belonged to which include but not limit to the following (this is a list applicable to me or any 24 year old young lady out there):

  1. Q: Do you have a boyfriend? 
  2. Q: If answer to 1 is YES, when get married?
  3. Q: If answer to 1 is NO, when find a boyfriend? Like I get to choose when to find.
  4. Q: If answer to 2 is SOON, when? 
  5. Q: If answer to 2 is DUNNO YET, aiya, why not? Your parents will be very happy. My parents will be happy if I am with a man that loves me, not for me to just marry quick.

I am too lazy and also I am lucky enough to dodged the Chinese New Year bullet for quite a few years, so the questions might have evolved.

With that as the main reason, I never like Chinese New Year. But this year's Chinese New Year had a new record of uneventful (or eventful). 

It started with reunion breakfast, prepared lovingly by Pretty Girl all the way in Thailand. All the love was received even though the breakfast is virtual. 

Its so healthy it is unreal. Chinese New Year food is anything BUT healthy. With my virtual breakfast in the tummy, I set out to meet up with a friend. 

The rest of the day was spent catching up in between drinks and monopoly. At least I had my gambling fix there and I won in exactly 15 minutes because we are too excited to sit and play monopoly. I am kidding, I don't gamble.

So I start my Chinese New Year the same way I started my New Year. Chinese New Year 2014 marks the first day of Year of Horse, which is supposedly good for me (snake), so I am thrilled to find what 2014 has in store for me. Because the forecast about health problem came true, I fell sick on the FIRST day of Chinese new Year. So now that the bad forecast had been fulfilled, let the GOOD began!