Written while Drunk on Thoughts

17 Oct 2014

Love LOCK-ED, an Oxymoron

Ponts des Arts, Hohenzollern Bridge,Västerbron and closer to home, that bridge atop Penang Hill. What do they have in common? Yes, Love LOCKS.


Love LOCKS......ahhh, the ultimate, no-going-back, forever locked together romantic gesture. *Technically can be forcefully removed, but that is cheating* Personally, I have this kind of commitment issue. Sure, it is very romantic but what if shit happened and you are no longer with the person you are "locked" together with? What if you despise this person so much that the thought of having a lock inscribed with both your names forever locked together makes you wish you did rather die? *Drama Queen*  Perhaps I am thinking too negatively and think that this whole idea is as much of a gimmick as Valentine's day. 

Don't get me wrong, for someone that doesn't believe in this grand gesture of love, I did spent a very long time reading what was written on the locks. Some are downright sweet, some disgustingly cheesy. Some locks are put on there by new young couples, some by old long-term couples; declaring their undying love to each other. I am still very much a hopeless romantic but the idea that a lock is needed to secure the love I share with the special someone just defeated what LOVE is supposed to be.

Love is "suppose" to be a selfless act. ClichĂ© saying - "If you love that person, you should wish him / her all the best, even if that means watching her loving someone else". Love doesn't require or involve a lock. Ultimately, what is yours, will be; what is not, will never be - with or without a lock. 

11 Oct 2014

You went too far

Did I?

Sticking to the CHANGE topic. People change. ALL THE TIME. Every decision made make you a different person prior that decision. Every single experience will change you no others will. I recently caught up with an old friend. We spent the night drinking and sharing our own experiences throughout the years. Both of us came to a conclusion, we were both told that we went too far off, because our values differ from those that made the remarks. We were no longer the same person we used to when we were running around in the school's playground. We both were told that we did not follow "The Plan", we decided to divert and that is what separated us with our peers. This is how this came to be....

Initially, I apologised for diverting and I tried to reassure my past that I am still the same girl, just with different values. I still aspire to be happy and the only difference is what makes me happy now are not the same as what makes me happy previously. Slowly, I started to realise that those that are genuinely happy for me will remain, try to understand that everyone has their own way. Undoubtedly, some of my choices and decisions are not convention and expected of, and to some extend, from my personal experience, slightly out of the usual comfort zone. But as long as I did not hurt anyone and myself in the process, these shouldn't matter, right?

Even though it pains me to be separated by our beliefs,  I accepted the horrible reality that not everyone is meant to be in my life. "As life is like a bus ride, some may enter to stay with you throughout the journey, some take off & leave. You know who matter" Words of a wise, Pretty Girl. Those that wants to remain in your life will always make an effort to. The sad truth is, just like how changes will happen in everyone's life, at one point or another, life circumstances force people to change. But on the bright side, I get new chances of getting to know new people all over again.

The best kind of relationship evolves as the two people involved in it evolves together. We are no longer the chubby young kids anymore, why stick to the values that we had when we thought Willy Wonka's Chocolate Factory is real? Allow yourself to accept life changes and the very fact that people change. That being said, I am still keeping my "You can't have too much chocolate" belief.